1) We have two step-cousins who are at Virginia Tech in the engineering department. Fortunately, they're both safe after todays horrible rampage, but one lives in the dorm where it started... and they both usually have classes in the building where the second phase of the shooting happened. We're very lucky there.
2) The worst came true for Cary and Laurie - the Birthmom decided not to go with them, saying she didn't feel like she knew them well enough... the sad thing is that they were here that whole week prior, and the adoption agency never managed to get a meeting together with them - they never spoke before the girl was born. The agency also never got any of the basic legalities started (the pre-birth placement agreement, the cooperative agreement), and now appear to be offering other families for her to consider. They did not do right by Cary and Laurie, who are just shellshocked.
Now, it's always the right of either party to say no - it has to work that way. But in this case, the agency did NOTHING to help prepare either party for this, and they weren't even THERE during the one meeting to help coach or mediate.
So we're very heartbroken for them. If there can be a silver lining, it has been that we have got to know Cary and Laurie very well now, and really like them: It makes this rejection even harder because we know they have such good hearts and would be such great parents.
3) Our dear friend Kari in Chicago's mom had a mild heart attack yesterday. She was discharged today with some recommended diet changes and some meds, but no angioplasty was needed thank goodness.
4) A good friend at work lost her baby last week in almost the same manner as we lost Alexander (same age, major genetic issues, needed to do live birth...). Then not a week later, her mother in law passed away, and they all needed to go to a funeral in South Dakota.
So there's some craziness swirling in the air right now - I hope it calms down soon...
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Oh, you must have been frantic! My cousin Tom's daughter taught in the research part of VA Tech and I was afraid for her. She's moved up to Alexandria and works for the patent office. Whew. And I am so grateful your friends are ok.
I am truly sad for your friends and the birth mother's decision. May THEIR baby come soon.
Reliving the birth of Alex - that's tough. Even after 30 years, the wound was still frighteningly real.
I will go spend 24 hours with Sue and her family at their horse farm tomorrow. Aunt Carrie has bunny duty. God bless that girl! Bless you too - real good (as the pastors in the South say).
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